Healthy relationships start with YOU

You ever get on your own nerves? I have. You ever think you’re the best thing this world has seen since Adam and Eve? I haven't "always". (: p) I LOVE me; regardless of what I do or have done, I've truly learned to love me and accept me for who I am.

My humble beginning starts traditionally with my mother and father. I luckily made it out of a generation where I was taught and encouraged to be a strong, beautiful, and of course a respectable black woman. My mom would speak of my natural beauty often and my dad would challenge me just as frequently. My self-esteem was groomed from their love, but society surely made me question a number of things I was raised believing; however, there's something magical about a strong foundation. The bible says:

“They are like a man building a house, who dug down deep and laid the foundation on rock. When a flood came, the torrent struck that house but could not shake it, because it was well built.” – Luke 6:48 (NIV)

Even though my identity felt sifted by societal ideas while I transitioned into womanhood, I never lost my foundation, teaching, experiences and upbringing. I never degraded my past and I believe that has kept me with a healthy outlook on life.  

REDEMPTION: The most beautiful word to the vocabulary of the underdog. My rearing wasn't peaches and cream; please don't be fool. (A blog post wouldn't be enough to tell you the half of it.) Redemption is a great reason why life is worth living. If you’re blessed with the opportunity to live you’re life to the point where you can take over and chose your own future, SHOUT right there, get your "happy feet" going. Life is great for those who seize the opportunity to create something meaningful of it, regardless of your past. Hopefully, you'd seize something awesome for your future!

So then, how do you live and lead a healthy life? You start by creating a healthy you. Be good to you. Love you. Be patient with you. Have hope for you. When you do this for you, then you can do this for others. When you’re realistic about your ways, your thoughts and actions, you can accept responsibility. When you’re responsible, you make the decisions. You chose to have love, to have peace, to have joy in your life and no one can change you or your outlook on life, relationships or with anything. Now, I would be lying if I said this was easy and I would be a fool if I didn't say God is the reason why this life is even possible to obtain.

A healthy relationship with you establishes healthy relationships with others. Most of the time, what you put out there is what you’ll get in return. A healthy you accepts your past and looks optimistically towards your future. In 2013, I said goodbye to anything that would make me unhealthy. In 2014, I'm saying, I'm starting with me.

All love ya'll. Glory to the King. ~Lemonade Curl~